Moving to a new country
Moving to a new country
Sebene: I’m so happy that we’ve finally arrived in Norway. It’s so nice here, and I feel that the future is secure now, for us and the children.
Amaniel: Nice here? I’m so tired of being in a strange country. Everything is so difficult. Nothing works. I don’t have a job, I don’t understand the language and I need help with everything. People here behave so strangely. They think completely differently from me.
Sebene: I thought everything was fine.
Amaniel: Things were a lot better a few weeks ago. I didn’t understand how different life had actually become. We’ve lost so much: family, friends, traditions and our language.
Something happens to people who move to a new country. They often go through something we call a three-phase mental migration process. How long the different phases last differs from person to person.
Phase 1
It is common to initially feel happy and optimistic. It’s often a busy time. There’s a lot to sort out, and it’s exciting that everything is new to you. People tend to think more about the new opportunities they have been given, and less about what they have left behind and lost.
Phase 2
After a few days, weeks or months, most people will find that life in the new country feels hard. They suddenly become aware of the consequences of moving. Everything they are not familiar with in the new country can make them feel insecure. People become tired and fed up of nothing being like they are used to, and start really missing the life they used to know.
Phase 3
After a while, life becomes easier again for most people. They understand more, both in relation to the language and the system in the new country. The future looks brighter. They have accepted the move. Gradually, they start to acknowledge the positive aspects of life and values in the new country. When this is combined with the values and thinking they have brought with them from their home country, they find their place in the new society.
Talk together
- How are Amaniel and Sebene doing? Can you identify with anything they say?
- Amaniel says that he has lost a lot. What could this mean for his health?
- Will someone who has moved involuntarily to a new country experience these phases differently than someone who has moved voluntarily?
- What will life in a family be like if the members of the family are going through these phases at different times?
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How many phases are there in a mental migration process?
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Which phase is characterised by
- life in the new country feeling hard
- becoming aware of the consequences of moving
- missing one’s old life
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How long do the different phases last?
Complete the sentence
When you start to acknowledge the positive aspects of life and values in the new country, and combine this with the values and thinking you have brought with you from your former country ...
Select right or wrong
Read the statements. What is right? What is wrong?